Please show your support to this Indie artist, Gbanjah Carter. I featured him on my blog a while back. He does great work for the children of Liberia, West Africa. He could use your support and donations. Every little bit helps. Thank you so much for your support. http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/338017/
I see a capacity for love and tolerance that I never thought possible.
I've really thought about myself as great but I'm very proud of my commitment to charity. My visit to Liberia in 2009 brought about a whole different change in the way I see children and how much I took for granted.
As a father and a human being. And I think being a father made some things apparent that I never took notice of before. Kinda like a new compassion....or interest. Biggest Challenges would be staying focused and committed in the music business and trying to find way to educate the Liberian children.
Please show your support to this Indie artist that I featured on my blog. He does great work for the children of Liberia, West Africa. He could use your support and donations. Every little bit helps. Thank you so much for your support. http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/338017/
GREAT MORNING WORLD!!!!! It felt amazing to open up my blog page entitled "Bindu" on Facebook and read the following:"Beautiful Disarming eyes, a killer smile and a great mind. What a deadly combination. I do not know you at all but I truly enjoy your post." *Thank you B. Snetter*
That was so nice.......but then why did I scroll down several comments and saw somebody looked through my pics then posted under one of my pics saying: "LAY OFF THE SNACKS" (REALLY??)
Gotta love Facebook! I guess I should thank the person who called me fat because he inspired my blog post today! *THANKS DUDE*
*This is the pic of me he called fat. Who knew?????* lmao.....this is a grown woman's body! Welcome to reality. ;-)
This is how it went down on my page....
LMAO @ somebody who recently joined my page and must have spent their whole night going through all of my pics. They left a lot of comments that made me raise an eyebrow but the best was the one that said: "LAY OFF THE SNACKS".
I busted out laughing and just smiled because I love when men who can't carry life in their womb and push out babies call women fat. Women already have enough pressure to be thin. Also the truth is because of society most of the women who are a normal healthy size seem to believe they are fat. THAT'S A REAL ISSUE!!! Hey, my attitude is men please don't call women fat, especially if you need to be in the gym with her. So I looked really hard at his profile pic then thought about going even harder but I just smiled and just banned and blocked him from my page. I really like the new me. I use to shut down and hold things in but I love being able to say what I feel.......FREELY!!!!!
The easy thing to do is to be negative and sling insults. I have a sharp tongue and wit so I can easily slice or dice up anyone but that is not who I truly am. I get nothing out of being hurtful. I actually appreciated his comments even though it wasn't nice at all.
The old me would have said "LAY OFF THE UGLY", but I think the old me had a high school mentality and that was well over 20 years ago. The new me just said I wonder how many women have had someone say this to them and men too, because everybody is rude sometimes. I decided to smile and post about it. Our little girls already have negative thoughts about their image so this is not okay. Our young boys have self esteem issues with their weight too. If a person does not value themselves or know their worth, words will have a negative affect on them.
I believe that everything does happens for a reason. Maybe a girl or a woman needed this today. Maybe parents need to stop calling their kids fat. Maybe I need to not describe myself as fat. Who knows?? What I do know is that every single thing is a life lesson, no matter how minor it is. That lesson should teach us something about ourselves as well as life. You must be careful of the image you see when you look in the mirror and the image you allow other people to project onto you. *TRUTH*
Truth be told, if you're not sleeping with me don't concern yourself with my fat. My jingling baby has no affect on you! I'm just keeping it real!!! I think it's important to mention this truth because I think we need to really see ourselves. Life has taught me that hurt people do hurt people.
Damaged people damage people and so on. I am not hurting or damaged therefore I have no need to hurt. I am truly blessed to have a platform that allows me to express a deeper part of who I am FEARLESSLY. I smiled today thinking that I have really grown up and matured tremendously. That is real womanhood and I am so grateful!!!
For as much as I say exactly how I feel, I am aware and conscious enough to consider people's feelings. I chose to be in the public eye so yes a thick skin is required but I think in every day life people must be careful about all of the negativity they place onto others.
Life has taught me that it will always come back to you in many ways. The other truth that life has also taught me is that words do hurt as well as affect the *IMAGE* we have of ourselves. That sticks and stones saying is a lie. Words do have power. I know because I blog words that have a profound affect on people.
Just like my words affect them, their words affect me. It may be in different ways but they still have an effect. I'm quirky because I can call myself "fat" or discuss my weight, but nobody else can unless I allow it. I'm not giving out permission!!! I'm dead serious! *lol *
We all should be kinder and very aware of what we say and how we treat others. Now don't get me wrong......dude was right but not for the pic he posted on. I actually do love snacks!!!! *LMAO* Truth be told I do stress eat and need to lay off the snacks BUT truth be told I've been pretty slim most of my life and after physically pushing out several kids, I think that I look much better curvy, thick and healthy. Fullness is beautiful! Too many people struggle with their weight so we must watch what we say, especially to strangers.
As women our role is not to carve our image into the distorted picture in any person's mind. Our bodies are our temples but we are not meant to look exactly the same. Just like we are not meant to be people pleasers. You have to learn to be pleased with yourself!!!!
I'll be 40 years old this year and I have no desire to be paper supermodel thin. That's not attractive to me. I desire to be well toned, healthy INSIDE OUT, happy and beautiful INSIDE OUT. We all should! *TRUTH*
I love to talk about every single topic I can think of or that someone has ever mentioned to me because I love truth. If my body is fat after several babies than we really need to discuss and address our self image as well as challenge people who attempt to project and define what fat or attractive is. Regardless of what society tells us, our BEAUTY is not defined by our fat!
Our comfort zone is the safest place to stay. It's our home within a home. That's where we put our walls up and blinders on to hide who we are because we are afraid to stand out. Our comfort zone allows us to peek into but never step into the world and stand out.
Our comfort zone allows us to blend in casually as we hide behind our fears, hopes, wishes and dreams. We all can dream, but we all don't work smart and hard enough to turn our dreams into a reality. The only way to know who you are and what you are truly capable of, is to step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself, but do it fearlessly!
It is very important to prepare for anything and everything in life. It is more important to stay prepared and ready for what you desire out of life. With that said, when it comes to going for specific things like business, career, dreams and goals, you must know who you are, so you can trust yourself enough to believe in yourself.
Staying in your comfort zone is saying that you do not trust or believe in who you are or worse, you don't know who you are at whatever stage in your life. You have to rediscover yourself as you change, grow and evolve. The old you is your comfort zone. The new you has to stand out and be completely fearless.
You can't you sell yourself, if you don't know or trust yourself. One truth that I know for a fact in this world, is that any business or industry has one main goal, focus and priority. It's called their bottom line. If you are not an asset who is contributing to their bottom line in a major way, in other words making money or bringing in revenue, then it can't work. They won't waste any time!
The raw truth is that people can sense all of your weaknesses, insecurities, cover ups, lies and sniff out any BS you're trying to sell them. They sense when you are afraid, embarrassed, new and naive to something. They always know when your self esteem or worth is very low, so be careful in this world. Balance in life and self love will save you every time. That can only come if you leave your comfort zone to discover who you truly are in this world. Who are you? What are you doing? Where are you going in life and why??????
You learn who you are by paying close attention to the signs in life which are teaching you lessons about yourself. Something as simple as educating yourself emotionally, intellectually and spiritually will help you achieve all of your goals. You have to be more than hungry for what you want. You have to be starving for it, that's how strong your desire must be to achieve goals.
People don't get confident and smart over night. They become smart when they choose to learn their life lessons. If they learn their lessons they become confident in life. A smart person is one who is focused on every aspect of their personal growth and development. It will allow them to grow into a person that they can do the impossible.
A person with no college degree or experience can be smart and educate themselves by putting themselves in the right circles, learning from the people around them and working hard as they prepare for opportunity to knock. They will challenge themselves to win in life!
If opportunity does not present itself, they will not wait around for it knowing that they create one in order to display their greatness. They never give up or give in. They don't stay discouraged or stuck in their dreams, instead they live, learn, grow, adjust, make changes as needed and prepare for their future.
Anyone with this mindset or mentality understands that life is all about making the right moves, which has nothing to do with staying in your comfort zone. Comfort zones are in the same neighborhoods as the lazy zones. You must make things happen for you!!
Your job is for you to figure out how you will succeed in life! You must do the impossible daily! You must be very relentless in chasing your dreams. I don't even mess with people that don't believe in me. I leave those folks in the nonbelievers section of life. Let them boo me way from the backseat of life because I'm too far ahead mentally, emotionally and spiritually to hear them. I'm too busy loving my life!!!
Life is all about less talk and more action. When you wake up each day, be wise about your thoughts, goals, plans, decisions and choices. It is up to you to make sure that your life hasn't been mostly moments of Shouldas, Couldas and Wouldas!! Life is meant to be lived very well and that cannot be done if you choose to stay in your comfort zone.
Honestly, I am blown away that it does not click in people's minds that what they think and what they do is crucial. Every thought and action does affect your life in some way. You must pay attention to all of the signs that life is showing you and be guided by them. This is why I call everyone greatness. This is why I say great things. This is why I think positive thoughts. This is why I fight the good fight with battling negativity because it is so easy to think or assume the bad and ugly things in life. It is so easy to not speak truth and not take action against negativity. Foul is foul, there is no confusion in that. Negativity seems to shine easily all day every single day, so you have to say that you are greatness and then allow your actions to prove it to yourself. What you think is what you will say and what you say is what you will end up doing. Have faith in yourself. Start thinking that you are greatness, say that you are greatness and go on to do great things so that you can become greatness. *TRUTH*
Every time a stranger calls me beautiful, I think to myself "but you don't know me." Beauty truly comes from within. What's deep beneath the surface is what truly matters. While I appreciate a genuine compliment, it carries more weight when people who personally know me or personally know my good, bad and very ugly side and they still feel that I am a beautiful person. That makes me feel beautiful because I know they truly SEE ME. They see my struggle, they see my hopes, they see my dreams and they believe that I desire to become greatness. It tells me that it's not me but it's my truth that is beautiful. People always want their external beauty to be noticed and valued. I want my truth to be acknowledged and understood because you will never see my beauty if you can't see my truth.
I read something on facebook about motherhood and staying sexy/fabulous for your man, being exceptional for your kids, keeping your body tight and attractive, your home spotless and in perfect order, making your own money so you can show you are a hustler.
Now this person is a woman giving advice to women to motivate them. While I love and appreciate her for doing that, what I don't understand is why didn't one woman question the fact that SHE HAS NO KIDS. I'm like this woman obviously has not one clue about everything that can go wrong IF a woman is blessed to get pregnant and carry a child or lucky enough to adopt a child. Some women would love to be mothers but it's a struggle.
This woman certainly has no idea what postpartum depression is. Ummmm, I do and it's a depression that comes over you after you give birth and it makes suicide look like it could be really fun. Ladies, please be wise about who you choose to take advice from. I do give advice all of the time but I do tell people to question me and to think for themselves. Only you know what's best for you. You are your own expert!!
YES a woman can absolutely do and be all of those wonderful things which is actually being SUPERWOMAN. BUT that will happen as soon as you send mothers a personal trainer, a nanny, a wealthy husband who gives her an expense account to shop until she drops, someone who does her hair & make up, a personal driver to take her and the kids where they need to go, a chef to cook all of the family meals, an interior decorator, a housekeeper, an assistant to handle her errands and personal affairs, a life coach, oh and great connections to set her up with that fabulous career.
Yep that's how women become that superwoman everyday. I don't know any woman that can do it all and not lose the best part of who she truly is. Also I don't know one woman you can give herself that much attention and care without dropping the ball on being a good mom. Clearly the woman giving advice does not know why it is so hard for mother's to hold things down and how much support we need in our lives.
Do not set yourself up for an epic fail! Do the best you can but don't beat yourself up when you fall short as a mom, we all do. It's about how fast we bounce back and do better. Not easy!!
My point is you have to love yourself enough to trust that you are a great mother. There is a natural instinct that comes from loving your children which will guide you to care for them. You just need to tap into that energy.
You will screw up, all mothers do so it will never be perfect or easy. You have to know your child and be in tune with their feelings. As long as you give it your all and really try your best it is okay. YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!
The love you hold in your heart for your children is the TRUTH! Trust it!!
Yesterday was the Super Bowl and it was a very interesting day for me. It encouraged me to choose a specific topic to blog and post about today.
I almost never blog about famous people or any specific person. I usually make everyone's experience my own as if I am walking in their shoes, so if you don't know about me by now, allow me to introduce myself. My name is BINDU. I am a West African woman of strength. Sometimes I feel like every woman. Some say that I'm shocking and all of the thoughts *IN MY HEAD* is way too deep. My feelings on that is, that's their perspective.
I actually don't think I'm that deep and certainly not shocking, but that's my perspective. At the end of the day, it's not that serious, I AM WHO I AM, YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE so IT IS WHAT IT IS! I love to blog, express myself deeply and passionately, but most of all I love to study people and try to step into their shoes if possible. For me it is an opportunity to learn their life lessons.
When I place myself in a person's shoes, it is to feel their joy and pain, as well as explore their personal truth, in order to see their side of what they have gone through in life. Some of my very favorite people are people who judge and point fingers at others. Our world is notorious for building people up so they can celebrate tearing them down.
IN MY HEAD, I see it as a cruel joke in life, because it's as if people get off on seeing others succeed just to see if they will fail. The sick truth is people who point fingers love to see others broken wide open. I often smile at people who love to judge and point fingers because I know that life lessons are coming for them in a way that they truly can never imagine.
We all have our season to go through joy and pain. People love us then they love to hate us for screwing up or doing things to destroy the perfect image they placed upon us. Everyone will have their own battles to fight each day of their lives. To me it makes sense to help each other overcome struggles but some people don't see life that way. We all have different stories based on our personal truth.
What I've noticed in life is that, those who love to point fingers and judge to use another person's trials to expose them are usually the people that get the toughest life lessons to learn. Life will eventually hit them harder than the person they are pointing fingers at because they were so tough on other people during a time of learning their life lessons.
To me the story of Ray Lewis has so many lessons we can all learn from. It makes me think of how the world is full of sinners and saints but people choose to believe that they are usually one or the other. It is wise to learn that you must see yourself in others. When you can't then you just might convince yourself that you are above or beyond other people's mistakes, poor choices or bad decisions. That's when life will toss you some insane life experiences.
It is very easy to judge and point fingers yet so difficult to be brave enough to say, I will choose to be a blessing to the person everyone has given up on or thrown away. I like saints but I like sinners a little bit more because saints are better at hiding their truth, but sinners can't escape their truth no matter how hard they try so it is easy to see them. It is easy for saints to hide.
One lesson that life has taught me about pointing fingers, is that at some point in our lives, we forget that WE ARE ALL SINNERS AND WE ARE ALL SAINTS. Some of us sin early and turn into saints later. Some of us become saints early and end up being sinners later in life. I guess it all depends on which life lesson we are experiencing and if we choose to learn from it.
Unless our feet can fit in other people's shoes every second of their journey, to walk their path in life, who are we to judge them or point our fingers at somebody's life lessons? I say let's allow people to learn their lessons so they can receive their blessings. Most people are broken enough by pain.
There really is something to be said by practicing compassion even if you don't feel somebody may deserve it. It says a whole lot about your character and not so much about who the other person is or what they did. You are not their jury or judge. CAREFUL WHERE YOU POINT YOUR FINGERS. LIFE HAS A FUNNY WAY OF POINTING 3 FINGERS RIGHT BACK AT YOU. *TRUTH*
No matter how much praise and fanatic pedestal worship people choose to place upon you, understand that it is jujust for doing what your heart tells you to do or for using your gifts, talents to tap into your greatness, your life is always about you. It is not real.
It is never about what other people think of you or how they feel about your choices and decisions. At they end of the day, you have to live with yourself, your decisions, your choices, but you also have to LIVE. It is very difficult to just LIVE, when the whole world is constantly pointing fingers at you and reminding you of who you use to be, what you went through and your poor choices. It takes tremendous courage and strength to LIVE through and beyond all of those judgments. Not everyone is strong enough to walk that path and thrive.
Yesterday was interesting for me because as I've said many times before, I love to study people. I don't study people for judgement because people are unique individuals who at times choose to be followers instead of putting the work in that it really takes to be a leader. You don't have to be a leader to others as much as you have to be one to yourself. I study people simply to learn. I love to see the different mindsets as well as what makes people tick. Life has taught me many lessons but one of the biggest is As I watched Ray Lewis last
WHO YOU WERE YESTERDAY, SHOULD NEVER BE WHO YOU ARE TODAY. PERSONAL GROWTH IS KEY.
YOU SHOULD HAVE A NEW TRUTH THAT HAS RENEWED YOU.
In order to become GREATNESS you must learn to discover who you truly are in order to overcome your personal struggles. You must be able to destroy what destroys you from within.
The thing about life is that your lessons are usually chosen for you. You may not be able to choose your lessons but you do get choose your outlook, how you're willing to learn in order to win in life.