Whatever you offer & expose your child to will leave an imprint that will mold their minds forever. Kids listen & pay attention when adults least expect it. They see if what you say will match what you do, then they judge your character based on your actions. Kids don't listen because they see that most adults live a lie.
When I was a little girl my mind would just go crazy with thoughts. I had questions about everyone & tried to figure out the answers by paying close attention to behavior, but never voiced it out loud. I kept my thoughts to myself. Looking back I think I was socializing with the world but IN MY HEAD.
I began writing my thoughts down at an early age because I was told "only speak when spoken to & stay in a child's place". It is crazy how some voices can linger in your head for life. Those words were said to me with such a brutal force of energy behind it that it planted seeds of doubt & fear inside me.
During those moments I thought...."what if I have something to say?" & "what if it is important to me?." After being told that repeatedly I figured what I thought or had to say didn't matter. Not so funny how you can carry those feelings with you into relationships, friendships & in your career. Words have the power to uplift or tear down!
I was a small dose of light bursting with beautiful energy but I thought speaking up or expressing yourself was for important, strong or powerful people. One of many messages I received at an early age was I am NOT meant to be seen or heard. Love was the flip side to the hate I endured. I know my mother's love saved me & gave me strength. Unconditional love was the strongest message that made me doubt & question hate.
As I grew up I experienced many lessons. I learned that people will do one of two things when they are being put down or abused. They will either begin to believe people's definition & perception by allowing others to project their issues onto them OR they will gain the courage to reject it by looking within themselves for the truth.