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Friday, July 13, 2012

LAST ON HIS LIST

It is frustrating to see women give away their power. When a woman is living for the love & affection of someone, she has set herself up to be broken wide open. Some women sacrifice their worth for stolen moments of pleasure. Some crave the meaningless attention from men so much that his world becomes their priority & focus. I've watched women push their kids onto a man because of how they see him care for his own kids. They imagine him doing the same for their kids.

I think to myself where did she think the kids came from? Clearly there is a woman he is attached, married or going through an experience with. At least investigate if this is a healthy or toxic situation before buying into a fantasy. I have watched women wait around for a man to finish spoiling & caring for his wife so she can have some crumbs off another woman's plate. Why become his recreation or favorite sport this season? Why be last on his list? Too many women feed off how a person makes them feel instead of looking at how they feel about themselves.

How someone feels about you does not matter more than how you feel about yourself. A woman's intuition is so strong that she should always look within herself for answers. We should ask ourselves......Do I feel worthy or worthless? Do I deserve so much more or am I settling for less? And most important WHY??? I would love for women to ask themselves why they would choose to be last on on anybody's love list? It is very easy to settle, cater to his ego & create a fantasy by telling yourself lies while ignoring the truth.

If a man says I'm seeing somebody or married but I'm not happy right now, women should say "I'm sorry to hear that but I wish you well", then keep it moving!! What is there to talk about? Real men make decisions instead of inviting other women into their personal problems. Sometimes men are so immature when it comes to women that they really believe they are "bagging chicks". They have their woman, their side chicks & their friends with benefits. They don't get that women are too emotional & they end up "bagging drama". If a man has any treasures in his life he will lose it by playing games with women. You cannot control a woman or her emotions.
A man should show you instead of telling you. Love has nothing to do with what he "sells you " or "tells you". It is in his actions & what you see daily. It has everything to do with respect! Maybe it's my ego or maybe it's my worth but I will be on the A-List or no list in his life because my life will flow forward regardless. I'm a master at creating my happiness & a better life so there will never be an excuse or reason to be *LAST ON HIS LIST*. Nobody should settle for being sloppy seconds or less than equal. We have no control over the people we choose to be with but we do have control over the things we accept from them. We must learn our worth!

10 comments:

MamaXpress said...

Such powerful and meaningful words spoken.

Bindu said...

@MamaXpress........Thank you very much!

ELIZABETH MASSAQUOI said...

LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE I LOVE THIS

Bindu said...

@ Elizabeth.....I truly am!! Thank you. :-)

DroppingJules said...

So true, great read as usual...

Bindu said...

@ DroppingJules..... I appreciate the feedback. Thank you!

Anonymous said...

Nice message =)

Bindu said...

@ Anonymous......Thanks for the feedback! :-)

angelique Shepherd said...

Wonderful words of wisdom!!!!!!

BINDU INMYHEAD said...

@ Angelique......THANKS SO MUCH BEAUTIFUL!!! *Blessings to you* :-)